Some time ago my husband and I started talking about moving to a cleaner place, with fresh air, maybe near the beach. The main reason was health related. We were seriously considering the idea, even took a few trips to see our “prospective” places. We returned very excited about moving. We even contacted a real estate agent to start looking for houses. But something started to bother me. A little inner voice was not comfortable with our decision. I tried to quiet that little voice.
The Torah says there is a time for silence and a time to speak…..I never contemplated that idea very deeply until now….
I was reading an article about a shaliach who , due to the difficult financial situation, could not rely on his usual supporters for constant help. He was unable to continue providing everything for guests , programs etc. so he enlisted the help of his community members. When there was an event, he told this one to bring soda, that one to bring bread, the other one to bring cookies etc. And the reaction was overwhelming. People loved it. To the extent that even when things improve financially he plans to continue involving his community in his projects.
Another important point to mention is that whenever someone becomes frustrated or angry or disappointed in life, they tend to look for someone to blame in life. Someone who is responsible for their suffering. Children in particular look to blame someone…parents are usually the most “convenient” to blame since they are closest to the children!
The trick is to learn and to educate our children not to play the blame game. Rather each one has to do some internal searching, deep in their hearts, and find areas that they have to improve in.
I must say that one thing is very comforting to me: something that is a constant in my life, no matter what is happening. No matter how stressed I am or how bored I am or how frustrated I am or even how depressed I am, when Shabbat enters, I have to be ready to rejoice on Shabbat. It is a great discipline! I could be in the worst mood ever but when Shabbat enters but I have to smile and put on a happy face….and then a miracle happens and I actually start to feel happy. Why? Shabbat itself brings joy. We are not allowed to be sad or depressed or to cry on Shabbat.
I see that people nowadays in general have a lot of worries and difficulties and insecurities. People are worried why they are not married yet, or why they don’t have more money, or why life seems so difficult.
This is a site for the purpose of finding inspiration and gaining insights to help become better wives, mothers and people and to learn how to deal with various issues that confront us in life.
Originally I was planning to start a site called Frustration Station. But I decided not to use that name, for various reasons. However, I guess my first topic will be …can you guess? Frustration!